For Jenahara Nasution, Fashion Designer and Entrepreneur, moments spent with her children are priceless. Time at home with her kids always comes as a priority and she embraces challenging times as an opportunity to strengthen their bond. Here is her story of raising a boy and two girls, and how she finds contentment in her homelife.
How would you describe your home life in one word?
One word that describes my homelife would be content. Looking back when I was young, both of my parents were working a lot. So I always wished that when I have kids, I will spend more time with them. As now I am a career woman and spend a lot of time working outside, making time for my children at home is still a priority. It's not about the quantity of time we spend with them, but the quality of it. I think each day when we wake up, we need to decide about what matters to us the most in life. For me, i feel content when spending time with my kids.
"Although working from home can be hectic, these challenging times are actually the ones that strengthen our bond." - Jenahara Nasution
You have been a single mother recently, how has this affected your homelife during the pandemic?
I used to think that I have so little time for my children, so I embrace more time I have with them now during the quarantine. Working from home combined with monitoring my kids homeschooling can be hectic. But these challenging times are actually the ones that strengthen our bond. For example, I am not very close with my son because he grew up closer to his father. He has some unresolved questions about the divorce. I have a gap with him, but this pandemic brought us closer together. We have more time to communicate. Now he understands my situation better and I understand his point of view too.
"When I feel like my energy is drained, I go for solitude. But other times, spending time with my children recharged my energy. So, it is a take and give journey." - Jenahara Nasution
How do you recharge yourself at home?
I used to feel so drained and I feel like I don’t have enough energy for my kids. Then I realized that there is no one that can fill my own cup of tea other than myself. When we feel whole, we can charge our children. When I feel like my energy is drained, I go for solitude. I choose to meditate, take deep breaths, and do positive affirmation to influence the unconscious mind. Reading books and writing a journal have also kept me centered. But other times, spending time with my children recharged my energy. So, it is a take and give journey.
"I want my children to have strong characters. They can take examples from my life. When they grow up, they will be better than me in taking choices, whatever it may be." - Jenahara Nasution
What family values do you instill in your children?
I want my children to have strong characters and have confidence with themselves. They can take examples from my life. When they grow up, they will be better than me in taking choices, whatever it may be. I instilled all of my children with the same values, but as they have different characters, each will process it differently. So, I raise them to be confident with anything they believe.
Text by Arani Aslama
Photograph Courtesy of Jenahara Nasution
Creative Direction by Kania Anggiani