As homelife is full of energy and constantly changing, Andien Aisyah, Singer and Entrepreneur, ensures she always creates time to reconnect with herself. Keeping herself in check is indeed essential to maintain her life at home balance. In the following piece, have a glance at how Andien Aisyah carries a nurturing home environment both for herself and her family.
"Everyday is different and I am truly grateful for the small moments made at home. Like reading to my child before bedtime and seeing him laughing while listening to the story, it is so precious." - Andien Aisyah
How do you describe your homelife in one word?
My homelife is dynamic. There's up and down. Sometimes it’s loud, sometimes it’s calm. There are laughters and arguments. Everyday is different and I am truly grateful for the small moments made at home. Like reading to my child before bedtime and seeing him laughing while listening to the story, it is so precious. It is such a blessing, especially after a long day of working.
What is a good day at home for you ?
It would be when I can complete my work while also having some time to reconnect with myself. Finding time for ourselves can be challenging once we have children. Nevertheless, we must create it.
Do you have any specific rituals that you do at home to keep yourself in check, especially during this pandemic?
In the morning, I meditate, listen to self-reflection podcasts, and write. If I dreamt something a night before that I know will soon forget, then I will write it down. There are some changes during this pregnancy. I always have a journal for my dreams, but now I include a journal of feelings. I pour it all as one. To keep myself in check, I also exercise. I routinely walk, do yoga or taichi.
"When instilling values, instead of forcing him, we create conditions that allow him to learn and develop the idea." - Andien Aisyah
What characters do you nurture in your children from a young age?
We give our child the freedom to be himself. We let him know that he has a free will. When instilling values, instead of forcing him, we create conditions that allow him to learn and develop the idea. Honesty and working hard are among values that we nurture in him. We integrate these norms into his environment, which does not involve only us as parents, but also includes the grandparents and the whole family. We set examples and be consistent with what we say or do. By doing so, he would be able to generalize the concept of those norms. We believe it takes a village to raise a child.
As he will be a big brother soon, we also nurture responsibility in him. We want him to experience the process of loving a sibling naturally. We implement the concept that we are a family, but each has their own soul, their own free will. This is a process of preparing him for the future, where he needs to be able to take risks, struggle, and build his own perspectives.
Text by Arani Aslama
Photograph Courtesy of Andien Aisyah
Creative Direction by Kania Anggiani